Question of the Day

When Kenneth and Gloria started their journey of faith they had questions too—lots of them! So, we've compiled the most frequently asked questions by people like you—people who earnestly desire to find God's answers to the practical, real-life challenges of everyday living. We have a new question every day, so check back often!

What is God's plan for intimacy in marriage?

Marriage and the intimacy that goes along with marriage is a blessing to husbands and wives, a gift from God Himself. Yes, God made sex for procreation, but He also created it as a physical pleasure to be enjoyed as part of His plan for the marriage covenant. Sex with your spouse is something you can not only enjoy today, but something that you can look forward to becoming better and better over time as you grow closer to each other.

In The Successful Family, Dr. Creflo and Taffi Dollar teach that everything you need to know about sex is in the Bible, and it is very specific (Hebrews 13:4; Genesis 4:1; Proverbs 5:15-20; Song of Solomon; 1 Corinthians 7:1-7). One of the first things God commanded Adam and Eve to do was to be fruitful and multiply. He wanted them to enjoy one another physically and in the process, have children. Because God believes that sex is good, this means it is good within the framework of marriage. The intimacy that takes place between a husband and wife reinforces the commitment between them, while also providing pleasure and satisfaction.

The Dollars also teach that God’s love is focused on giving. It says, “I want to please you more than myself. I put your needs ahead of mine.” A key to intimacy in marriage is effective communication. Therefore, sexual fulfillment starts with the understanding that men and women differ in their basic sexual and emotional needs. For a man that often means:

  1. Satisfaction of his sexual drive
  2. Fulfillment of his manhood
  3. Enhancement of his love for his wife
  4. Reduction of friction in the home.

For a woman it provides:

  1. Fulfillment of her womanhood
  2. Reassurance of her husband’s love
  3. Enhancement of her love for her husband.

If you’re married, the enjoyment of sex is a gift God has given to you and your spouse as a couple. When you married one another, you became one—and the marriage bed is a pure and good gift from God. Enjoy the gift!