The Bible speaks strongly and clearly against the sin of fornication, which is sexual intercourse outside of marriage. In fact, the Apostle Paul was strong in his writings about this (1 Thessalonians 4:3; 1 Corinthians 6:18, 7:9; Hebrews 13:4).

God takes marriage very seriously. He gave it to us as a source of joy and companionship (Genesis 2:18). Even more, this sacred union symbolizes the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Sex was also created by God, but it was intended to be enjoyed only by a man and a woman who are married to one another, as it symbolizes becoming one flesh. That’s why the Bible compares idolatry to the sins of fornication and adultery, and why sexual purity and faithfulness mirror our relationship with God. 

Just as with any commandment of God, it exists for our own good. Aside from the physical and emotional risks, studies show that those who engage in premarital sex are far more likely to divorce than those who wait until after marriage. Giving yourself away physically, emotionally and spiritually to someone outside the commitment and protection of marriage breaks down what is special in the marriage relationship.

We encourage you to remain pure and support that decision with a commitment to honor the Lord and your future spouse with your whole being—spirit, soul and body. Strengthen your position in that commitment by encouraging your friends and agreeing with your dating partner to share those same values and commitments concerning sexual purity and marriage.